26 December 2011

Free is so expensive, everybody wants to buy it...

Free, Free, Free... sounds so great, isn't it? 
At least a first thought would be wow... But on a second thought "I shouldn't believe it is really free, something might be hidden"(really those asterisks are very hard to find in the advertisements).

On Sunday morning I was reading a newspaper and saw one advertisement which was giving 20-40% discounts on furniture. I really got excited instantly and asked my sister if we can visit the store and buy. She poured cold water by saying "Do you really require anything from that list?" I again gone through the advertisement, and sadly found none.

You know my sister and I have a very good thing in common, Whenever she gets excited to buy something I deny with a logical reasons and If I do, she denies. Otherwise I can imagine how many things we might have bought just to find they were not needed. But if we agree on something, means a big threat to balance. I still remember spending Rs.19000/- in just one store at a time(they didn't give me any discounts though). What we bought, nothing but just nice clothes for ourselves. This is the disadvantage when every shop accepts your card. So don't carry it when you go shopping.

So today's Free means: Formula Required to Energize Electrons
This formula creates a great flow of current in the mind which makes customers so excited to buy something which is being offered to them(sometimes for no reasons).

Most things we enjoy(sometimes unconsciously) and must be grateful to have them in our life come Free(...really free). I mean which parents ask for a special child, Isn't every child special? Did we ask for loving parents? Do we ask a new day, then why Sun rises and sets regularly even if we don't bother to look out?

Morning walks are absolute free(but of course if we go), and if one goes and exercises regularly health would remain at it best. But we prefer to go to fitness center or running on treadmill, after all we will pay for it and there is 15% discount too if register for 3 months. So are we buying fitness?

On of my aunties said that doctor has suggested her to drink milk daily, but she does not drink. She can afford a tablet which cost her 20 rupees daily but she cant afford to drink milk which cost the same price. So is she buying her health eating those tablets?

We know that we can learn anything we want, and nowadays everything is just like a one click away. But look at the competitions going on, who has time and importantly patience for self learning. So we started buying education and skills.

Sometimes people hardly bother to talk to family/neighbours/relatives and then attend seminars on developing communications and public relationship. Can't we start from home and have a laugh, its free too?

Look at trees, they give everything for free even after they die but still we are cutting them.

At least we must not try to dilute things which are given absolute free, otherwise we might find ourselves buying smiles, love, happiness and faith etc with some discounts in some super malls...

16 June 2011

Haath ki rekha karam se badlein - a song of some old movie



हाथ की रेखा करम से बदलें, तोड़ न प्यारे आश,
बंदें करम में कर विश्वास..................................

करम कीएजा, करम हें पूजा 
करम से न मुंह मोड़............

पग-पग हें प्रभु साथ तुम्हारें,
पग प्रभु के तू छोड़..............

उनसे न कुछ छीप पाया हें,
पल-पल हें वोह पास, बंदें करम में कर विश्वास......

अर्जुन को उपदेश दिया, कहा क्रिष्ण ने 
यह अर्जुन से, करम से न मुंह मोड़........................

करम मोक्ष हें, करम हें मुकती
करम से नाता जोड़, बंदें मोह माया को छोड़, 
बंदें करम से न मुंह मोड़.............................

अर्जुन को उपदेश दिया, ग्यान की ज्योती जलाई,
जब-जब भटका रह से कोई, प्रभु ने राह दिखाई...

प्रभु चरणों में बुझ जाती हें प्यारे मन की प्यास 
बंदें करम में कर विश्वास...............................

करम श्रेष्ठ हें, करम धरम हें,
करम में रख विश्वास.........

करम करे हो कल्याण उसका, 
होता नहीं विनाश, बंदें करम में कर विश्वास...

सुख निंद्रा में मत सो बंदें, 
सुख निंद्रा से जाग

करम हे भक्ति, करम हे शक्ति, बंदें आलश को दे त्याग 
देख सफलता छिपी करम में,बंदें करम में कर विश्वास...

Finally I found the audio for this song. As its recorded on phone, quality is not so great but still you can hear it. So here is the song


01 June 2011

And I laughed...

I had been working as a Research Fellow at M S University of Baroda and I used to live in Hansa Mehta Hall. My hostel campus was just opposite to famaous Kamatibaug.

So I decieded to go there for jogging. So one day my friend Neha and I went there. It was our first day there. We passed by a group of old aged people. I saw they were doing something different or unusal, but I didnt bother much and moved ahead.

Second day I saw the same group of old men and women. Today they were acting like a butterfly and were running from here and there. Again I chuckled and moved ahead.

On following days I found out that, it was a Laughing Club. Wow! a laughing club! I had heard about the laughing therapy, but I had not seen something like this before! So I was a bit curious.


So after jogging, we decided to sit on a bench, from where we can see this group. So some days passed and they also saw us sitting there everyday.

One day a tall old man came to us and introduced himself as a owner of that club. He asked us if we would like to join their club. We immeidately accepted the invitation and it was free too.

So from the next day, after jogging instead of sitting on the bench, we joined some 20 people, most of all aged between 55 and 80. We were youngest in the group. They all welcomed us with open hearts.

We started with some light excercises and then they taught us different ways to laugh from stomach so that we take more oxygen through laughing.

Like
1) Keep your feet apart, bend your body down, and take a deep breath. Slowly move upwards by stretching
your arms in the air and just laugh out loud
2) Then run like a butterfly anywhere in the garden
3) Then do some latkas-zatkas
4) Interesting thing was, all aunties were dancing like dolls and it was really fun to watch their thumkas!
5) In the end they used to drink Special imagineray Lassi! And how to drink it? Keep your feet apart, hold
the glass of lassi in one hand and drink with trrrrrrrrrr  sound
6) The session used to end with a joke and they used to bring written jokes. But after I joined, it was my responsibility to tell them a joke. We started to laugh like anything. We were completely mad. And these guys were really enjoying themselves very much. Even some other girls also joined us after hearing our story.

But one day what happened! I was laughing like a mad by streaching my arms in the air and suddenly I saw somebody.  It was my head of the department, who was just walking around with his wife. He saw me and was looked totally puzzled. I guess he was trying to figure out what was I doing actually, but he couldn't. I was doing ha ha ha without laughing as laughter stopped coming out after seeing him there suddenly.

But the moment he went away, I lauged like mad. Even today when I remind his puzzled face, it brings laughter on my face.

Meditating.........

"If sleep is an unconcious meditation, Meditaion is a concious sleep".

Last December, I attended a 10 days residential course in Dholka village. The course is widely known as Vipassana Meditaion Technique.

Now you must be wondering, why Mediation? and what does vipassana for?

I am sure that all of you must have felt angry, happy, sad and even frustrated at sometimes. Have you ever noticed, that how your body reacts to such emotions? God has given 5 senses, which are smart enough to release some kind of sensations when we face such emotions. We feel pain, itching, gudgud, nervousness and many more.

These sensations are not permanent, and they passes away after a while. But they arise again for some different reasons. So this process is going on and on until we die.

The problem here is, if some good happens we want it more and try to hold it. we crave for it. In contrary if some bad happens, we dont want it and the aversion starts. Poeple say don't be agnry. So sometimes we hold or suppress our emotions for long, and the day come when we break all the limits.

Another problem is all these things accumulate into our subconcious without our knowledge, and so we have piles of conditionings. You know we carry them even to our next rebirths. So our sim card does not switch off easily and the cycle of birth goes on and on. Like Kabir has explained in its Doha

Maya mari na Man mara, Mar mar gaye shareer,
Asha - Trishna na mari, kahe gaye sant kabeer

so we carry our asha-trishna to next rebirths. Vipassana means to see the things as they really are, and without reacting at them, without categorizing them. So neither they are good nor bad, neither right nor wrong. So in mediation we just watch our pure breath coming in and passing out. This is called Anapana technique.

Then we watch our sensations passing over certain body parts and gradually we observe them throughout whole body from top to bottom and bottom up and just getting aware of what is going on.

So here we just observe and do not more experience the sensations to react at them. It helps to get rid of even old conditionings. These techniques had been used by old rishimunis to get moksha and escape the cycle of rebirth. Means this is what real mediation is for.

26 May 2011

Exam Lessons

Someone has said it very well that "Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want" So this is what I got in the school. Nothing, but an Experience!

You know if someone asks me today! what does school mean? I would say,
- which adds values to my character,
- which brings me into the real world, and
- which builds a right attitude in me.

But in those days, school meant,
- where I have to get good marks,
- should try to be in the favourite list of the teachers, and
- where my presence was more important than what I learn at the school.

Until 9th standard, I was an average student, who got around 60 to 65%. I don't know why, but I had decided at very young age that I would pick up science stream. So I must get good marks in the 10th's Board Exams.

But how? Well When there is a will, there is a way!
I cheated in the board exams. In fact I carried cheats in the examination hall. Of course, I was not caught by the examiner. I did realize that it was not the correct way, but I had a mission to get an admission into Science.


I prayed a lot and asked god for only 70%, which I expected would be the minimum percentage to get into Science. I didn't ask for even single extra mark.

Surprisingly, I got exactly 70% and an admission too. But something was wrong. I noticed, that I didn't feel happy when I annouced my result to anyone. I guess because it was not my result. The lesson I learned here was "Never cheat in the exam if your really want to enjoy your results".

I promised God, that I would not cheat in my 12th Board exams. Then came the 12th exams.

Chemistry, Physics, Biology, Maths... All done without cheating! But here came the dragon! ENGLISH!

So Honesty! How long? Until you get the chance to be dishonest. This time I didn't carry cheats but asked my neighbor student to help me out. He offered me 2-3 cheats but I refused just to keep my promise with God. So I looked into his paper, read them from far and wrote the answers.

You know, I had a doubt about my Physics paper, but surprisingly I passed all subjects except English!
They promoted me in english with gracing marks!

So another lesson I leanred here was "No matter how smart you behave, God watches your deeds" so Never play with God and don't cheat"

These 2 lessons helped me to understand that our values and promises are more important than getting good marks and so obviously I stopped cheating in exams.

28 April 2011

Everyday comes with new lessons

My sisters already left the room and headed towards the terrace. I was reading some vocabs, and soon started yawning. Well, its time to sleep! I said to myself. Finally I got up and went to the terrace.

I usually check underground water-tank before going to bed, so tonight also I did the same and made sure that the tap is not open. I remember I was awake until 11pm. I put the alarm and slept.

At 4:30 am finally I woke up and got down from the terrace. Again as a routine I went to the water tank to open the tap. I noticed that something is missing. But what? yes, Electric water-motor!!!

I searched everywhere and soon realized that it is nowhere around. I checked the main gate and found was closed. Everything was at the right place except that the motor was missing.

Undoubtedly it got stolen :(  I guess between 3 and 4am. Thief also took the towel which was hanging outside on a wire, to cover up the motor. I went upstairs and woke my sister up. Why should I take all the pain? I needed someone to share it :)

At last we both cooled down and I went to get ready for the class as I usually leave home by 6 am and it was already 5am.Afterwards we both had tea. We thought to complain to police. 

What lesson -1 I learned today, is "keep your electric water-motor inside home", otherwise its an open invitation to the thieves. 

The good thing was, that on the very previous night I had filled the terrace-water tank to its capacity otherwise we would have run out of water, so we thanked God on his favor. Sometimes we think that God is unkind and is not fair enough with us. But its untrue. 

What lesson -2 I learned today, is what if we see the same thing in reverse? I mean instead of seeing how bad he has done to us?, we can think of much more bad things he has not done to us, which he could have easily done. So he is still nice to us and cares for us :)

I returned back home from the class and went to the police station to file the FIR. One sub inspector came to me and asked for the reason. I told him the story. He asked me some questions and wrote down my complaint. He told me that they will try to find out and will call me back if they get any news of the motor. I came back home.

You know sometimes I wonder that, if I can use the command "Ctrl + F" in my real life too. It would become quite easy to find out the things, people and moments I have lost, misplaced or forgotten or say somehow got stolen. I would say God left the defect here and is not going to resolve this, no matter how hard I pray. 

What lesson -3 I learned today, is try to live in the present moment otherwise when it gets lost, we could never find it again.

My sister called me from her office in the noon and said that she got her salary and this time it was double the amount as it included her arrears also. You know the 6th pay commission :) She was quite happy.

What lesson -4 I learned today, is when God takes somethings out from our life he made sure that we don't lose our balance and he did it. What she got was far far better than what we lost in the morning. Well we were lucky that we got balanced on the very same day :)

Finally we will buy a new motor as chances of getting it back are little. So its time to welcome a new member.  At-least our water tank would get a new friend. But I am sure that it's going to miss its old friend too.